Restore: Bringing You into Alignment

What is Restore?

We grew up in a culture of competition to achieve more and better than your neighbor. We were taught to do better than your parents. We were encouraged to learn more, make more, do more than the generation before you or the neighbor beside you. There was very little room for creating, being or listening. All the ways to connect with the more that was inside of you whispering, nudging and guiding you to what made you passionate, happy and whole. It is time.

Stepping into your Magnificence and connecting with your Divinity or Sovereignty is where we are headed in this time of stepping out of the 3D consciousness. The warlike conflicts and competitive energy is receding and through that we are finding new footing. For thoudands of years, we have allowed division and descent rule how we interacted with each other. From monarchy and democracy, we have prescribed to what we were told to do by others. In this new energy, we are allowed to follow the prescriptions of our soul. We have all we need inside of us: love, compassion, and cooperation with all. Not just all people but all living things: the planet, animals and all life.  Restoring the balance between economic systems, political systems, family systems, ecological systems, and all systems on this spaceship Earth; and ultimately how all this affects the Universe. As we are a small part of a much larger system.

What this system is entirely, we still do not understand all of it or the ramifications that our actions have on it. However, we can control our lives, how we treat others and the environment around us. Restoring our balance emotionally, physically, mentally, and ethereally, we can affect and change our own lives. One by one we affect all that is around us. By living as authentically and balanced as we can, then we can ripple that effect out to those around us that are feeling lost, unbalanced, and unhappy with their surroundings. We may feel that we cannot change anything significantly, but if we change ourselves and be the model of harmony, love, and contentment, then we can change our own environment; thereby affecting the whole.

Breaking down any overwhelming task to individual steps allows us to feel accomplishment that allows us to take the next step in that task and in effect accomplishing the seemingly impossible. All we can ever do is work to be better ourselves, and this example will be the model that others will emulate especially when you are winning, achieving, and gaining all that you want in your life experience, right now.  

  1. Work on having balance: mentally, physically, emotionally, and ethereally
  2. Live in love, compassion and harmony
  3. Set boundaries with those who are not willing to make the changes
  4. Be creative, have joy and be passionate with where you spend your energy
  5. Give where and when you can: money, time and energy

This new energy will take time to embrace. For some it will be so uncomfortable. For others it will be a welcome relief. Staying in compassion with all of those around you, will help you to maintain your peace and balance through these changes. The new earth and new human is being created. Blessings, M xo

Taking time to just “be” brings the most clarity and connection from Source.

Recognize, Release and Restore

Really getting clear with ourselves about our traits, foibles and what makes us who we are….can be revealing. And, not always in a good way because we start to see clearly that the only person standing in our way is us. Hard, hard truth for most of us to come to. We want to blame and play the victim because that validates our ego. The ego that keeps you playing small…keeps you safe…keeps you stagnant because to change is uncomfortable or down right scary depending on the situation.

Dictionary.com’s second definition of victimization is “the act or fact of blaming others for the hardships one encounters in life.” Your ego is so ok with doing this because then it can feel good about its choices and decisions made in almost all situations, relationships and areas of one’s life with no need to take responsibility for any of it. Allow it to land on someone else’s shoulders. Unfortunately, this will never bring you the peace, happiness and alignment with your life’s purpose in this life experience at this time.

For a long time, I blamed family, circumstances and others for the hurt and trauma that I had to overcome. Some of it was justified, however, all of it needed to be forgiven. It was the only way for me to take responsibility for how I was allowing those experiences to affect my decision making. For that I needed to become accountable.

Only through accountability or recognizing my actions could I look at why I was making the decisions that I was making that were keeping my stuck, broke and miserable. Others’ actions were directly impacting my decision making skills and keeping me unhappy, single, bad money management and focusing on jobs that were soul sucking to me. I had to find the secret sauce that would allow me to thrive despite the traumas and abuses that I dealt with for the first two-thirds of my life. I desperately wanted to be happy. I desperately did not want to feel the weight of any of it anymore: hopelessness, lack mentality, low self-esteem, unattractive, and all of the myriad self-sabotaging thought patterns I had always engaged in. Taking this hard look at myself was the most difficult thing I have ever gone through. Figuring out why I did the things I did. It was heartbreaking on so many levels: recognizing who let me down and how. I could only go up from there. And, heal those wounds to have a better day(s).

The releasing was the forgiveness that I had to give everyone, myself included. Not forgiveness of letting anyone off the hook. The forgiveness that is the acceptance of things could not have been other than what they were. Not needing to know the why or the how of all the decisions that negatively impacted my life from all the people who were supposed to love me. The forgiveness allowed me to release the attachment to my ego: the need to be right.

I struggled with this for years. The idea of ‘letting anyone of the hook’ and the anger that I held on to in my justifiable indignation of the hurts and traumas that I had endured, or righteousness was, also, blocking me from living in the freedom that the forgiveness has now produced in my life.

The forgiveness extinguishes the anger like a candle sniffer to a flame. The anger can eat you alive like a fire destroys everything in its wake. Anger eats at you and your ego feeds it from the need of being right or the need to keep you comfortable, playing small in the same pond that you have always been in. And effectively diminishing you, holding you back from the life that you are here to lead. You are in effect blocking your own dreams, wishes, desires and destiny. No one else is. No one is holding you back but you. This is a hard truth pill to swallow. You are the co-creator of your destiny with you higher-power (higher-self, God, your team).

Restoring: it is time to bring yourself into alignment with who you are and why you are having this life experience at this time. We are all here to be happy, to be fulfilled and to realize our dreams. Once you recognized what is holding you back and released your attachment to any egoic outcomes, you are ready to restore yourself to your desired life experience: happiness, fulfilled and in-service. As we are all here to be in-service in some way, it is everyone’s life purpose.

This is a journey with no real destination because as one trait comes up and is transmuted energetically we are taken to another level. This life experience is a journey unto itself. Learning to work this process over and over again brings you to the fulfillment that you seek on every level.

Blessings, M xo

#7, Heart Chakra and Mercury Rx

Number 7 resonates with the vibrations and energies of the ‘Collective Consciousness’, faith and spirituality, spiritual awakening and awareness, spiritual enlightenmentspiritual acceptance and development, mysticism, intuition and inner-knowing, and manifestation.”(http://sacredscribesangelnumbers.blogspot.com/2011/06/angel-number-7.html) I was born the 7th month in the 70th year. Seven has always had a lot of meaning for me. Finding the signs and symbols that resonate with you helps you to feel, know and experience spirit communication. We are all being guided to our unique path and it is important to recognize the signs that are leading us into alignment for our soul’s evolution and purpose at this time.

Leading with your heart, having a heart chakra wide open allows us to give love. When you have hurt, loss, heartbreak, it can be very difficult to lead heart wide open. And unfortunately, the only way to heal your heart chakra is to open in back up to give and receive. When you are holding on to grief, loss and hurt of any kind, it is very hard to trust and allow love to flow.

These two signs came to me during this Mercury Rx. Reviewing, revisiting….signs and symbols to lead you to releasing what no longer is for your highest and greatest good. Being mindful, staying aware, and open to synchronicity is very important. Spirit will bring you to it, but it is our awareness and acceptance that allows the connection to be beneficial to our life experience. This connection is very important to our evolution. Pay attention to the signs that you are being given.

We are here to evolve. We are evolving. This retrograde is going to push us out of our comfort zones to really look at those areas that have to be transformed in our lives, or we repeat old patterns and stay stuck in our situations that are not serving us. Subsequently, holding us back from getting to the purpose and happiness that is for us at this time.

The fear energy is powerful right now because the ego creates fear within us when we are trying to do/be something different. The ego identifies with safety. Different is seen as unsafe because it is not the expected, norm or known. However, we are not here to stay the same. We are here to evolve, so being uncomfortable is going to trigger the ego, or fear to try and keep us down, same old same old, and creating the same environments because familiar is safe.

It’s time to get uncomfortable. Releasing the negative self-talk, old patterns, sameness. Doing this is scary. Having a guiding system helps to know that you are safe in your “new” choices and directions. This is your connection to your Divinity: soul, higher-self, guides, angels, archangels, ascended masters, star mothers or whatever you are comfortable calling it. (They are ok with whatever you choose.)

Ways to get in alignment: meditation, breathing, tapping, energy healing (Reiki, IET, Unity Field Healing, etc.), intuitive coaching, reading/watching helpful others (Dyer, Tolle, Chopra, etc.) and listening/going within. Believing what you are experiencing is real.

Know that you are not alone in the evolution or in this life experience. This shift in consciousness is about becoming in-tune with love and the love within. Healing the human hurts/traumas opens up your heart chakra and raises your vibration to receive the love.

Every Mercury Rx breaks us open, some more than others and all in different signs that bring up different lessons…each and every time to evolve and teach us the next lesson or step to take us to alignment for our purpose here at this time in the earth plane of existence.

Check out my Services tab if you need coaching, guidance or classes. Blessings, M xo

8 Steps to Getting Out of Your Own Way

Many years ago I started on a road that has lead me on a journey of self-discovery. The hardest part has been to be able to be vulnerable with myself. Really getting honest about how I felt and my choices. It has been messy, ugly and terrifying most of the way. I had to assess why I made the choices I made and what was the catalyst for those choices. And at some point it had to be me….not others, not family, not relationships, not circumstances…but “me.” I had to say, “I did this.” Because, let’s face it, we all can play the blame game. But, it is through getting clear of blame and getting real with ourselves we can then become a new, more aware version of our former selves: the New Human.

We are all, in some way, being pushed into an awareness that there is more. More to this life existence then just living to die. We are here to become realized, aware, conscious co-creators of our experience in this life at this time in Earth’s evolution. However, we can not do this if we keep our limited beliefs and old stories to remain the way we live our lives today. It has shifted. We are evolving. We are being brought into awareness. The ego driven way of believing, knowing, and acting are the old system. The new day is dawning.

Healing the fear based emotions. Recognizing and releasing what is holding you back individually is affecting the whole. Like a ripple in the water after one pebble is thrown. Our individual healing, awakening, becoming conscious co-creators one person at a time will have the biggest impact over time. How do we do this?

Starting were you are at. Only focused on you. This is a very individual process. Some would say lonely. Finding like minded people helps. Finding materials to support you helps. Finding your connection to your Higher-self is key. Developing intuition, opening your third eye, trusting your feelings because what you are experiencing is real and true. Learning discernment is important. However, in this new energy, becoming high vibrational will keep you protected as you will work with only matching frequencies on the other side of the veil: ascended masters, archangels, guides and loved ones.

The healing the emotional body is what effectively raises your vibration. Abraham, as channeled by Esther Hicks has given us this information in the way of an Emotional Chart with all Fear at the bottom and all Love at the top. By bringing ourselves as close to love as we can, we can become closer to the Divine; and also tap into the divinity that is within each and everyone of us.

We chose to be here at this time. We chose to do the work, be the way showers, and help those around us through our vibrational frequencies, and not just people, but to help the planet, animals and all the eco-systems…big work!

Steps to start:

  1. Journal about your relationships: identify self-limiting beliefs
  2. Use positive affirmations, sound healing frequencies, and tapping techniques
  3. Start a Gratitude Journal: for 21 days list 10 things you are grateful for (a different ten each day).
  4. Forgiveness: finding and giving it to yourself and others
  5. Getting a therapist or counselor, medical advice and/or energy healing: Reiki, IET, Unity Field Healing, etc.
  6. Finding Compassion for yourself and others
  7. Reading inspirational material and using guided manuals for the process
  8. Finding a like minded group: in-person or virtually

If you are looking for direction, help and guidance, please check out melissaLwatkins.com/services.

Blessings, M xo

Beacon of Light

Today is a day of reflection. Only through reflection can we know where we are going. Take time to look at what has been, recognizing, realizing an learning what doesn’t work helps you to know what does. However uncomfortable it may feel that is the way in which to go. Only through discomfort can we grow. Staying comfortable keeps you in sameness. No change. No gain. Be the change for those around you to be able to follow your example. Be the leader for those in you own life –like a pebble in the pond– start the ripple effect. This was a year of profound change. Keep it going –to increase the ripples. To affect more and more people. Some will follow, some will not, but do not stop. Keep striding forward for all to see. Be the beacon of light.

The discomfort is all the ways in which you play small, make yourself small and stay small. It is now time to be seen. Be heard. Allow your magnificence to shine. For most of us shining is uncomfortable. Putting ourselves out there. Revealing our true essence is to be vulnerable. Only through healing our shame, past traumas and hurts that we have held on to like a security blanket of excuses to be small.

This shift of consciousness is not allowing us to play small. These downloads of ascension energy is all about sharing our light. This is hard work, which is why we are called Lightworkers. The ways in which to fully embrace our light is to heal. Heal those parts of you that hold you down. Abraham Hicks gave us the Emotional Scale. Where are you on it? If you are still in fear, grief, powerlessness, criticism and judgement, then you cannot ascend. You must heal those parts of you through forgiveness and gratitude, and that will allow you to ascend…ultimately to live in joy, love and gratitude through compassion for everyone-nirvana.

Will we get there? We are having a human experience with all the trappings of a human condition. Doing our best in every moment will get us there. Learning what our triggers are so that we can heal those parts or ourselves and holding compassion for everyone around us.

This does not mean that we will or can “fix” anyone else. But by being the Beacons of Light and modeling the best versions of ourselves, we can help others. We can show others that they can achieve balance, grace and inner happiness. Letting go of the “ego” in ourselves is so important. Achieving inner happiness, connecting with our Divinity and modeling living in higher consciousness does not make us better, only coming into a version of what a New Human will be.

This is work. This is energy being transformed. Through this process taking time alone, taking time to heal, getting help with the healing as needed will take time. Be gentle with yourself. Let what falls away fall away. Accept what appears. You will transform your tribe, your environment, and yourself through this metamorphosis. It will change you completely. Know that it is supposed to. Where you are going and what you will be focused on will be your journey alone and that is ok. Let those around you be where they are on their journey and know that being the model for them is the best way to help them, even if you have to let them go.

Distracting yourself by running from or ignoring the messages and lessons will only prolong the process by bringing you obstacles and challenges to be overcome that teach a lesson. Your purpose is for you and you will be brought back to it each time you need to be. It is up to you how long you want the metamorphosis to take. Following the inspiration and opportunities that are presented, no matter how uncomfortable, will speed up the process. For some you will need to “bump your nose” more than once to receive the message. It is your choice.

You are the beacon of light. Blessings, M xo

R101: What is Self-Worth?


The sense of one’s own value or worth as a person; self-esteem; self-respect: self-worth as defined by Dictionary.com. Growing up this was not a concept I was familiar with or how impactful it was in my life, the not knowing what it was or how it was affecting me. I was an only child until the age of five. I was abused and neglected from my earliest memory. This would shape every relationship around me by acting one of two ways with people: being quiet or overly pleasing. Everyone liked me this way, but they did not know the real me. I learned to not get noticed by not speaking up and staying in the background, observing but not interacting. In being pleasing, everyone thought I was easy going and solicitous. I learned how to anticipate and fulfill needs so that everyone was happy and taken care of around me. I gave, I did, I was…what everyone wanted me to be: easy, quiet, helpful….never myself.

Internalizing my needs lead me to overeat and be depressed. I had dreams and wanted to be more than I was expected to be or do. I was only supported in what others felt would keep me in their expected realm. Because I had always played it safe and done what they wanted, breaking free and being me was not allowed. And to some extent, I did not know who I was. It would take years of searching and learning all the lessons most learn in their early years of human connection and relationship. I had been busy taking care of others that I had not figured anything out about myself. It would take decades to recoup those lost years of learning who I was and gaining any self-esteem.

I had no concept of self-worth…loving myself. I felt wrong. Never comfortable in my own skin. I was told I was loved. But I never felt it. I had been conditioned very early that my needs were not important and that stayed with me for a long time. That feeling of unworthiness was given to me by damaged parents and those feelings stayed with me and affected all of my decisions for decades. I did not feel respected for any decisions that I made from my support system. All of my life decisions were met with fear and very little support. My partners, my career, or any choice I made was scoffed at or met with minimal support with the fear that I would fail. And somewhere in me, I had internalized these expectations of failure due to the traumas I had experienced that reinforced the feelings of not deserving to achieve. The desire to achieve drove me to trying to reach my goals with everything in me, but always just missing the goal. Losing over and over again relationships, jobs, living situations, and cars; thereby reinforcing for others the idea that my decisions were always the wrong one. Not achieving the safety and security that I craved.

Recognizing were you internalized feelings of inadequacy and unworthiness may take work through therapeutic care, counseling or diving deep in you own story; and some may need past-life regression or some type of energy work to route out traumas that are buried deep in your sub-conscious. I have done all of it and it was through Integrated Energy Therapy that I received the most beneficial healing to my self-worth. Finding the self-love, respect and self-esteem that I never had. This is the hardest and most beneficial work that you can do for yourself. Learning how to love yourself will raise your vibrational frequency in a way that will begin you interacting in the Universe in a profound way. And, this will not allow you to spiral back to old patterns that kept you playing small or choosing situations that will hurt you.

You become part of the matrix of the Divine, God-Consciousness that is available to all. Manifesting your desires and achieving your goals, being happy is why we are here on planet Earth, to be happy and have a joy filled experience. Loving yourself for your talents and gifts takes healing and releasing any guilt associated with doing for yourself. Let go and let God. Be happy. Looks so different on the other side of trauma. I pray you get here. Blessings, M xo

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R101: The “F” Word Explained

We talk a lot about healing our wounds. Letting things go. Walking away. Forgetting the past. But let us be honest, it is NOT that easy. Relationships are messy on a good day, and on a bad day, it takes on a whole new meaning when any one of these things are said to you. Not helping, or as my kid would say, “not ta-daey!”

The absolute lowest that we can feel is fear, guilt, shame, unworthiness, despair and powerlessness. These are deep seeded emotions, usually old, given to us before the age of five now residing in our Solar Plexus chakra and others and rooted in our subconscious affecting all of our current decision making, whether we realize it or not. And for most of us, we do NOT. We have conditioned ourselves by these old beliefs to keep ourselves protected (ego).

Self-sabotaging our loves, jobs, friendships, and more. By believing that we are not good enough or do not deserve at our core, keeps us playing ‘small’ not taking the Leap of Faith every time it is presented because we are convinced we will fail. And, we fail. It can be no other way. If you believe that you can’t, then you can’t. However, if you believe you can, then you CAN.

How do you get there? That is where the “F” word comes in. Forgiveness: letting go of the past decisions, relationships and situations that are holding you back because you are actively holding on to wanting things to be different. Your memory plays tricks on you, especially when you are holding on to woulda, coulda, shoulda scenarios that you play over and over in your mind. Or, you are suppressing the feelings because they are to painful to bring out into the light of day to be examined. When we have experienced a traumatic incident: abuse or neglect in some way, our psyche tries to protect us by pushing “it” down. However, in both these situation, it will resurface at some point in your life to be recognized and released.

Recognizing “it” means looking closely at the suppressed memory, person, situation that has made you feel bad in some way. This is the painful part because to truly see someone or a situation as hurtful as it was can be traumatic in its own way because you also become self-aware in the part that you played in allowing it to continue or allowing it to stay hidden. This is the releasing.

Releasing through forgiving yourself for whatever part you played, or anyone else who negatively impacted your situation. Also, recognizing that we all are doing the best we can in the moment. And forgiving you and them for making the decisions that they made at the time that they made them. And this releases you!

You get to begin new. With new situations, new people, new relationship with yourself first and then others. Becoming self-aware helps you to heal yourself. And this healing will transform you. And this healing will raise your vibrational frequency. Raising your vibrational frequency will draw new higher vibrational relationships and situations into your life without you having to search for a thing. And, this new found compassion will allow you to help relationships and situations around you to be better as a result.

Another result is that the lower vibrational situations and relationships will fall away, helping you to not stay in the pattern of self-sabotage that you have help previously. This takes time. Time to recognize and release. Time to love yourself. Time to heal.

At some point you may need help in this process. There will be a point or many points when you need help, please reach out.

Suicide help: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/

LGBQ: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/

Mental Health: https://www.mentalhealth.gov/get-help/immediate-help

Domestic Abuse: https://www.acf.hhs.gov/fysb/programs/family-violence-prevention-services/programs/ndvh

Integrated Energy Therapy: sheilatillich.com

Reike: melissaLwatkins.com being offered starting Jan 2021 and Energy readings now to help you identify what is being held in.

These are just a few of the ways in which you can reach out…please know that you are NOT alone.

Blessings, M xo

R101: What is Discernment?

Acuteness of judgement or understanding is how dictionary.com defines discernment. And I can honestly say, I did not use this word until about a year ago on a regular basis. Being extremely sensitive to the people, situations and thought patterns in my life was not something I did. However, as we become more self-aware to heal, this concept becomes very important, indeed.

We have to acutely judge:

  1. where we spend out time
  2. who we spend out time with
  3. what we think: negatively, positively
  4. our thought patterns
  5. what is important to us
  6. who is beneficial in our lives vs. who is not
  7. why we do the things we do
  8. why we allow situations to continue
  9. how we interact with people: to pleasing or to critical
  10. how we feel about ourselves vs. others
  11. how we allow people and situations to continue: good or bad
  12. when it is time to end a situation or a relationship
  13. when it is time to fight for a situation or a relationship

And many more….as you become aware of what has lead you into a Desperate Despair situation, you will have to learn how to be discerning as you move forward as to not repeat old patterns and self-sabotaging ways.

Self-awareness leads to trusting yourself to make the best decision every time.

The second way in which “discerning” came into my awareness was in my connection to Spirit or psychic ability. Was I hearing, feeling, knowing what Spirit was bringing me or was I allowing my Ego self-talk to influence me?

When we are letting our fears dictate our emotions and actions that is when we are fighting to have or receive the things we want and our thoughts run away with negative self-talk and self-sabotaging actions. The ego is always going to keep you “playing small” or in your comfort zone. The easy choice.

Spirit’s message, knowing you know, but not how you know, or hearing a thought, or having a feeling about a situation or person/relationship that comes from the heart is the message from spirit. It is subtle and can be missed, ignored or pushed aside because it is subtle and the fear-based thought is easier.

Spirit is ALWAYS bringing you to what is for you. Not the easy choice. Always the choice that will lead out of your comfort zone that feels exciting with a hint of scary. Being discerning in this instance will help you to know the difference. Take your time and practice with the little messages at first. The more you show spirit that you trust and act on their guidance the more they will give you, and it will be on bigger Leaps of Faith or inspiration for your life purpose.

More to come.

Blessings, M xo

Desperate Despair: No More

So, you hit bottom. The only place to go is up. I know that you have heard of that before. But, it is TRUE. Once you have hit this level of failure, discontent and emotional despondency, all you can do is make the decision to do something different. What you did in the past and how you made your choices clearly did NOT work. Whether it is addiction, money or relationships, in all those situations all you can affect or change is you! Your perceptions, expectations and decision making all have to change. Everything familiar has to go.

At this level of despondency you have in effect wiped out fear. You no longer have the same level of fear in your life because it HAPPENED. All the ways that you were afraid your life would go: it went, it crashed, and you lost. This is why you can only go up: improve, have, and reach for your dreams.

What you thought. What held you back. Criticism, judgement, insecurity, guilt, unworthiness, hate, rage, revenge, anger, discouragement, blame, worry, doubt, disappointment, overwhelm, pessimism, insecurity, powerlessness, and more: these are all the ways that hold us back. Our ego mind talking us out of feeling good for whatever trauma, pain or hurt that you are holding in your emotional body.

What the fear was that brought you to this low point is now giving way to having something entirely new, and this brings with it liberation. It is now time to take the Leap of Faith to make a different decision. Walking away from the “expectations of others” or letting those “limiting beliefs” about yourself hold you back any longer.

Recognizing and releasing is the healing that needs to occur so that you do not repeat this pattern and find yourself in this place again. Repeating patterns are the egos way of trying to keep you safe by not stepping out of your comfort zone to have anything new/different. But it is not safe if you find yourself on the bottom after each attempt. This is how we hurt our selves in relationships and keep ourselves in money deficit: lack mentality.

Lack mentality is the idea that we do not have enough: love, money or addiction (whatever that looks like for you: food, spending, drugs, sex, etc). Regardless of how much we actually have, it is never enough. We seek it out at the determent to ourselves because we are never satisfied. It becomes that obsession that is going to make everything else in our lives better, and it does NOT.

How do we heal? You start by being honest with yourself, your life choices, and your emotions surrounding both.

  1. How do I self-sabotage?
  2. What is my negative self-talk?
  3. What choices do I keep making that do not bring me the desired result?
  4. Who am I blaming?
  5. Who talks down to me, who abuses me (verbally, emotionally, physically or sexually) and/or who neglects me?
  6. Who do I need to disconnect from?
  7. What situation do I need to leave?
  8. What is the fear that is holding me back? Identify.

These questions will start the healing process by identifying and making the necessary changes. Using forgiveness will allow you to heal from whatever your situation is; letting go of the attachment to what happened and decisions made at the time that they were made. Only focus on the lessons learned and create new goals in the new found personal power of having survived through your very own version of Desperate Despair: hitting the bottom.

Seeking professional help is encouraged if you are in a dangerous situation or harming yourself and also, need help to work through traumatizing situations.

When you have lived this level of fear that brought this level of failure your vibrational frequency is the lowest. Through finding: contentment, hopefulness and optimism you begin to raise your vibrational frequency that will activate the Law of Attraction with the Law of Correspondence to allow the Universe to bring you the desires that you are trying to manifest without you having to struggle, strive or fight for the happiness you want. The easiest and fastest way to do this is keep gratitude foremost in your emotional signature: mantras, journaling and feeling the emotion repeatedly will change your life.

Desperate Despair: No More is what you can do to heal from having hit the bottom.

Blessings, M xo

Desperate Despair

At one time or another, we all fall down. Something in our life falls apart. We lose a relationship that we thought would go the distance. We lose a job that was our dream job. We lose our home. We lose our car. Any one of these scenarios feels catastrophic of an event that we have to recover from.

Finding love is hard, finding that one person who you find a connection with is hard and when you do it is the most magical feeling in the world. Having your dream job gives you safety and stability that allows you to have a foundation on where you can build all the other parts of your life. Having your own transportation gives you freedom and independence that allows you to go and do whatever you want, whenever you want. All of these are things that we all strive to have. We work really hard to achieve. These are the foundational principals of a happy life. So, the loss of anyone of these things really affects you on a physical, emotional, energetic or ethereal, and mental levels, changing your vibrational frequency because the loss of one of these things makes you fearful on some level for your survival.

So, when you lose all of these things in the same time frame, this can bring you to desperate despair. The feeling of not being safe and afraid for your safety and survival. Knowing that in some way all of your choices have lead to this point. Realizing that you have affected your own situation so negatively that you are at ground zero: homeless, jobless and carless. How do you recover? And you ask yourself this honestly because you know that to make the same decisions or go the same way as you have will get you similar results. You have let yourself down in the most fundamental ways, so how do you trust yourself and your decision making from here?

This is where you have to become self-aware. Becoming aware or yourself and WHY you have made the decisions that you have. What has lead you to this place of Desperate Despair? Even if you only had experienced one or two of these scenarios or something similar, you have to look within to find the cause. It is only there will you find the way to heal those parts of yourself that will allow the catalyst for change to take place and allow things to be different: positive.

Have you been in denial for a very long time of those hurts, traumas and abuses that have propelled you to engage in self-sabotaging ways? Addiction, denial, people pleasing, unworthiness, abusive relationship or toxic people in key roles in your life, health issues, etc. and all of these ways can look very different for everyone, but you have to get very honest with yourself before you can ever start to heal. And heal you must! It is the only way to have something different, positive and sustainable.

How? One step at a time. One wound at a time. Some may need therapeutic care, counseling, or physician’s help. Some may need to unpack their emotional bodies one step at a time through journaling and reading helpful guides: self-help or inspirational books. Sound healing and energy work can help. There are many modalities of help for the healing. But none of it will work if you are not getting clear on what is holding you back.

Desperate Despair is a HUGE motivator for change. And by making the changes, starting the process you are coming into alignment with your Divinity. The God inside you. We are being brought to our knees in some way at this time to be the catalyst that we need to change our lives. To change our relationship with each other and the planet. Going forward the old ways of being and doing will not work. We have to do better because now we know better–Maya Angelou said it so eloquently all those years ago.

We are waking up. Waking up to who and what we are: spiritual beings in a human condition. More and more of us are getting in touch with our spiritualness and it is beautiful. But it is a transforming energy and way of life. As you go down your path you will be brought to new awareness and connection. Do not despair because it is for you.

Take it one day at a time and know that as hard is it is to unpack and heal your wounds. It is the most beneficial thing you can do for yourself and those you love to become the best version of this 3demensional self and gain access to your 5demensional self by raising your vibrational frequency.

Blessings, M xo