6 Benefits of Gratitude

Thanksgiving is a feast no matter what you are sitting down to eat.  We try and pack as much as we can into one sitting on this day every year!  Growing up we couldn’t wait for that meal to hit the table because up until that time, we did not eat any other meal that day in anticipation of stuffing our faces.  And, it became all of our responsibility to watch the rolls because for about five years in a row, we forgot them and had to scrap the burnt part off of the bottom before enjoying them.  That became a tradition in and of itself.

We didn’t put much stock into the meaning of the day.  For us it was all about deer hunting and dinner making.  Dad would put the bird in on his way out of the door in the morning and Mom would put together everything to be ready for when he came home and took the bird out. And, we would all hover all morning and early afternoon waiting, getting in the way and snacking on what we could snatch from various pans!

Looking back on all those years, we were grateful to be all together because our older sister would be with us for that day and possibly the night.  We were grateful for having Dad home and making the turkey and butternut squash.  We were grateful for movie watching all together, while the wood stove kept it so warm that it was like being in a sauna, bring out the shorts and t’s.

Gratitude is an emotion that brings transformation.  For us, on that day, we had gratitude for the being-ness of the day and that we could count on the tradition of how that day would go and the sameness from year to year was comforting.  In our gratitude for each other on that day, we were able to create a sense of family.

Having gratitude in your life on a daily basis will bring blessings in all forms.

  • unexpected opportunities
  • new relationships
  • less stress
  • ease and grace overcoming obstacles and challenges
  • feeling of peace where fear lives
  • more money

Changing your life is as easy as changing your perspective!

I challenge you to 21 consecutive days writing ten things, situations, people that you are grateful for.  Really take the time to feel the emotion as you create your list.  And let me know how this affects your life…I would love to hear from you.

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~Melissa xo

I Made the Coffee, Again

Each day we get up and think our day will go one way, and some days it does.  And, some days it does not!  Plans are good things to make, lists are good ways to relieve stress, and sometimes we just wing it as we go.

Even whole sections of months or years can not go as planned.  Expectations placed on us by others can hold us back, or even the expectations that we place on ourselves based on what others have or are doing.

I have been battling this hard this month.  Mercury in retrograde for three weeks brought up all of my ‘stuff.’

But, the most surprising of all was Shame.


Consciousness of guilt, humiliating disgrace is not something I feel like I have struggled with.  But, it turns out that I have let this feeling hold me back from being seen authentically for most of my life.  “A, ha!”  This is one of those moments when you go, “this is not mine, but I have learned this through family/parent relationships.”  Karmic blocks/debt can be one of the most destructive forces in your life that you don’t even realize is there.

We are conditioned by our elders to react to certain situations.  Not realizing that they are giving your their beliefs and allowing you to internalize them as your own.  Which in turn affects all of your decisions and interactions.

So last week, tongue in cheek, I asked my Facebook community if making a second pot of coffee during the day was “OK?”  I let guilt and disgrace affect me in so many little ways that hold myself back.  I want to serve others and help them on their journey, but I worry about making more of something I am enjoying because I have shame about having enjoyment?? Craziness!

I was always pushed back, told to be quiet, and did not feel that I could stand out…and as a Leo that was all I ever wanted to do.  Be seen and heard.

Recognizing the ways in which you are held back, even in ways that you did not understand will allow you to unblock yourself to accomplish your goals and dream new dreams!

There are at least six ways that negatively impact your Karma: shame, guilt, unworthiness, undeservedness, poverty consciousness, victimization, inherited Karmic imprints.

Sitting with yourself, can you relate?

And ways to let it go!

  1. Identify-reflect on your life obstacles and challenges, patterns that have held you back
  2. Get clear on your own shortcomings-where does your ego control you
  3. Healing-spiritual practice
  4. Be Courageous-do not let fear hold you back
  5. Relationships-create boundaries, let go of toxic
  6. Incorporating new ways-retraining your thought process from negative to positive
  7. Forgiveness-detach from bitterness, resentment, anger, frustration, etc.

Karmic imprints/blocks feed off of negative emotions.

Make the coffee, go on the date, start a business, TAKE THE LEAP!


~Melissa xo