I lay in bed shivering, trying to get warm snuggled under the blanket that is on top of the comforter and neither are doing the job. I am alone in my house, but I am afraid to get up and blow dry my wet hair and turn on the heat.
For a moment, I lay there freezing until I realize that I can change my circumstance. Five minutes under the blow dryer and one flip of the heat switch. Why was I not relieving myself of my misery?
I grew up taking care of my four siblings and attending to their needs daily. I was in a relationship for years, where I had to take care of him and our daughter daily. I was a single mother for years, giving up my freedoms and needs to make sure my daughter had a full and varied life. I continued to take care of my families’ needs as they arose, and I allowed them safe harbor when they needed a place to land, providing safety and security with my own resources.
We can go through life unconscious the the decisions we are making that do not serve us. As a people pleaser, I was always putting everyone else’s needs before my own. Which found me in this absurd situation, in my own home with all the resources I needed to make myself comfortable, and it still took me moments of being really uncomfortable before it occurred to me to relieve my discomfort!
As ridiculous as it seems, I felt empowered to have 1. realized my situation and 2. the ability to change it.
Empowering ourselves as women does not come naturally to most of us. Coming from a disempowering household growing up or through learned behavior in adult relationships, we have to learn it is OK to speak or truth and fight for what we need. I will help you on your journey as we go forth together finding our power.