You grow up thinking you can do anything. And that people will be who you expect them to be. You will have things that you are supposed to have. You will be successful, get married, have kids and be happy. BECAUSE that is what they tell you.
These are all ego driven pursuits. Your ego makes you feel entitled. You are growing up in a world where you are taught you can have anything. You are excited and cannot wait for the good stuff to show up. –oops!
There are no magic Genie’s in a bottle to grant you three wishes. There are no Fairy Godmother’s to turn your life into your dreams with a magic wand. So, what do we do as mere mortals?
Work hard, they say. Get a degree, they say. We are expected to achieve, hugely. We are expected to do better than our parents. We are expected to work, study and be safe by their rules and standards. Who the fuck are they? “They:” society, parents, teachers, friends, clergy…the list can be daunting to have to live up to everyone else’s expectations. All because their ego said so, and thus became your ego’s inner monologue.
Hopefully, at some point you realize that your ego is making you extremely unhappy. Living up to or putting on expectation leads to misery. People will let you down every time. We are designed to make ourselves happy. Simply because we came here, this life, for a reason, and that reason will be the only way to have happiness.
How do you find your purpose? Finding it is easy…what makes you the happiest to do? Your passion? That thing, idea, creative expression, spreadsheet idea that will not let you rest?! That is what you are here to do!
But….I heard it….I can’t give up my day job…I can’t let __________down…(fill in the blank with a name). If you let other’s expectations keep dictating your life, your ego wins.
You came here to fulfill a purpose or soul contract. For me it has always been to write. To do that I had to surrender to the process of how I would support myself and finding the time that I would need for the task. The hardest part was letting go of the expectations that were placed upon me by my parents, colleagues, family and friends. Your ego can make you feel like you are letting them down. When in fact, you are living in God’s plan. Surrendering will allow you to receive the Divine inspiration for whatever your plan is…courage in the face of fear, and prayer in the face of uncertainty.
Blessings, ~Melissa xo