Alert: empath rant!

Recently my sister told me that I couldn’t cut myself off from people.  Was I?  As an  I need me time to de-energize myself.  Huh? Well, I take on other’s energy.  Some not so good, others really strong, and then there are the negative Nelly’s that cling right on to all my positive vibes.  Sooo…I like being alone or with the few authentic people I enjoy.  Annnndddddddd….the bitch is that I am also highly intuitive.  I get to feel what you are feeling, and know what is up with you…I don’t mean to violate your privacy, but I am receiving information alllll the time from everyone.  Overwhelming to say the least!

So, I have to force myself into situations that I would rather stay home from.   I have to decide who I hang with and who I don’t.  Self-preservation people…I get to.   It is not that I  don’t love you, or want to be around you.  But, if I am in a bad place, emotional, or going through something, there is NO way I can take on your stuff too!

So, to say that I am isolating myself, or cutting myself off…I might be.  But, it will only be for a while.  I do want relationships.  I do want to be involved.  I do enjoy life.  I just need the consideration and leeway to do me.

How you help: be understanding.  Don’t harass me about not doing something.  Don’t get angry if I no-show.  Don’t take it personally.  Feel free to contact me.  Feel free to ask to spend time with me one-on-one, so much easier for me.

I like to spend time in nature: hiking, at the beach, or on the porch.  And, I will listen, comfort, give advice, or just simply BE, while we are together.

I am not quiet because I don’t have an opinion.  I simply don’t know how much you want me to share.  I receive information from folks without asking….I can’t count the number of people who have confided in me that I didn’t know or didn’t know well.  People talk to me all the time and share without any provocation from me…it can get uncomfortable.

I am here to help, remember I have a team of guides and angels that help me, so if you don’t want spot on guidance…don’t ask.  It is frustrating to have my words dismissed, when I have taken the time to listen and tune in for your message.  Now, I am not saying I am all-knowing or god-like…but, I do get messages for you from the higher up and if they are giving it, then it is what you need at that time…even if it is not what you are focused on at that moment…be open to possibility!

End Rant!

On a serious note, I am just like you with a few extra senses thrown in.  Enjoy it!

IMG_0305Some empath self-care tips:

carry crystals, especially Malachite: that absorbs and removes negative energies, toxins and pollutants from the body

Smudge or use clary sage essential oil in water and spritz yourself as needed

take a ten-minute time out and ground yourself

Blessings,                                                                                                                                              ~Melissa xo

Mom, why is that lady sitting at the beach by herself?

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Walk away.  Run to your favorite spot.  Turn off your social media.  Find a quiet spot, gathering of friends, or do something that makes your heart sing.  A break, a time-out, a stepping away from your normal routine and responsibilities.

How am I going to do that?  You ask.  Why should I? You ask.  And, I will tell you that self-care is vitally important to your overall health.  We know how busy we are and we know what our responsibilities are.  The have to’s.  But you can only work, strive and push so much.  Stepping back and doing nothing is not doing nothing…you are actually taking care of yourself.  Allowing your energy to replenish.  Giving your mind, body and spirit time to recharge.

We are all energy.  And that energy base needs to be taken care of too.  For my own experience, when I have not respected my need for recharging then I have literally crippled myself with long periods of recovery time spent because I could not physically function.

So, why do I go to the beach alone?  For over twenty years I worked hard.  I gave physically, emotionally, and spiritually everything I had to everyone: personal and professional.  I had no idea that  I was crippling myself, except that  I would experience whole days of fatigue, dehydration, lethargy, and migraines.  Everyone else could go a hundred miles an hour through their lives, why couldn’t I?

We are all different.  And, that is OK.  I didn’t realize how different I was.  I absorb people’s energy.  I am affected by their Auras.  I am an Empath.  In the age that we are in with Light Workers really coming into their own, I was able to learn how to navigate this energy exchange that I am on with everyone that I meet.  It has been life changing.  One of the things that I can now do is have self-care and not feel guilty because the real truth is that if I don’t my body, mind and spirit will shut down on my and make me.

What self-care can look like…and remember it will be different for each of us.  We must find what works for us and schedule it in just as we would a conference call or grocery shopping.

Some self-care tips and tricks:

Put down the electronics and take a walk in nature. Sit at the beach with a book.  Take a salt bath.  Meditate. Yoga. Be OK with saying No to some invitations.  Don’t schedule every minute.  Eat well.  Sleep enough.  Listen to your intuition-if you need a break take one.  Cook.  Dance in the livingroom.  Basically, anything that you enjoy Do without Guilt!