What do I mean? Who are the monsters? Well, they can be anyone who is well meaning in your life that tries to manipulate you. Manipulation is just another way to use fear to get what they want. And, it stinks. The people you allow in your life should be trustworthy, especially when it comes to your feelings! The truth is many people are selfish without realizing it and that spills over into the interactions they have with everyone around them.
And we teach it! As parents we manipulate our children to do what we want. An example of this would be putting them into a situation that you know will make them uncomfortable to expose them to and teaching them how to deal with. Is this cruel? No, we are often trying to teach them something.
But, when an adult uses a fear tactic to get what they want from you: Monster. In any relationship: friend, lover, business, etc., using fear to gain an advantage is just not right. “I will go to the boss if you don’t ___________.” OR, “I will keep the kids if you divorce me.” And, there are countless ways to strike fear into your heart. It steals your peace. It shows that they don’t value your feelings. It is just mean!
When we come across those people it is simple, run…not kind of, not maybe, not another chance…sprint in the opposite direction. They will use whatever means that they cam to get what they WANT. They will not change. Their apology in not sincere. They want their way and you are in their’s!
If it is an abusive situation, PLEASE seek help….
National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1−800−799−7233